Apparently I'm a "defeatist" because I'm not 100% convinced D's going to be able to transfer to Columbus.

Of course I want this to work out- for several reasons. But I've already told him that I cannot do a happy dance until I know for sure. Until the president of the company says yes, I'm not going to stop holding my breath. It's not that I don't have utter faith in my husband's abilities to get the job done. It's not that I don't believe his supervisors have total faith in him. It's that this move affects me (and our kids) as much as it affects him. It's that we're pretty much in limbo until he knows for sure. He told me that if he's already got 3 approvals, then I shouldn't worry about it (although he did say that the owner could always have a strong reason not to want him to transfer).

Um.. again. This move affects me, too. Should I just leave it all up to fate? Assume it's all good? I have learned in life that unless you get the 100% go-ahead, don't be so sure of anything. I think that's being "cautious".. not "defeatist".